Everybody has a dream. La La Land tells us about two star-crossed lovers whose contradicting dreams challenged their relationship and their priorities. It makes you wonder, what’s most important? Your loved ones or your dreams?
Various people may abandon family time to get a promotion they always wanted, and others may miss out on grandpa’s birthday party to continue soccer practice motivated by possibly becoming the “world’s greatest soccer player.” While different for everybody, we all pine after one specific title to obtain before we die. Well let me tell you, even anyone with autism have dreams.
In fact, dreams for those on the spectrum can be more vividly realized, including what will happen in the future and when. These dreams could even start when they were very little.
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Some on the autism spectrum may set up future plans for years. I once met a high school sophomore with autism who was already working on a script for his senior project in animation. Wow! But alas, like anybody else following dreams, life gets in the way. A car wreck could cause loss of mobility in limbs, your mode of speech could go away, you could get arrested, or you could simply lose interest in your dream.
You might now be wondering, “if dreams rarely ever get met, why bother having them at all?”
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Dreams are not always a bad thing, both benefits and drawbacks exist in them. If anybody with autism set up a specific dream, then that proves their seriousness about future goals. Though they should sustain open minds toward alternative outcomes besides the one potential future they latch onto. They must understand their inability to predict what the future holds, and consider every potential outcome.
La La Land discusses the same struggle: when you want one thing in life, but the outcome means you may need to abandon it. So, keep realistic about your supposedly impossible dreams. If it turns out you must leave your audition to comfort your sick sister at the hospital, remember where the priority should be. We’re all capable of doing great, but know the way we become great rarely turns out in the way we expect.
- For anybody with autism, consider other possible outcomes aside from your own dreams. Life always has a way of changing at you, so knowing the alternatives to your dreams will foster joy amongst you and your loved ones.
- Keep your dreams realistic and true to yourself. I advise against becoming an expert pianist just because your mom had high hopes. If you’re reportedly bad at it and hate doing it, say no to it! Self-awareness comes especially hard for somebody on the autism spectrum; never trust only your own judgment on what kind of dreams you should pursue.
- Your family and friends have priority over your own hopes for the future. La La Land does not align with this message very well; you would be better off without your own TV show but good times shared with loved ones. This is also difficult for those with autism to understand.