Coming from my own experiences, my autism has been an enormous stumbling block, just like Will with Quadriplegia. But what I learned over time, is that what I thought was holding me back was actually setting me up for something better, such as my book on growing up autistic that currently has a 4.5-star rating on Amazon. But it doesn’t end there. Do you think Stephen Hawking would have inspired others had he decided to end his life after losing his muscular capabilities? Do you think that Roger Ebert would still be remembered as a well-respected movie critic if he killed himself after losing his jaw? What about Abraham Lincoln? Would our nation still be a slave-free country if he chose to end it after meeting a failure on the job? The devastating thing is, this movie proves that people don’t quite understand the value of a disability.
Maybe Me Before You isn’t promoting the best solution on how to deal with physical and mental impairments, but there is one thing that it gets right: the portrayal of what it does to a person.
Unlike somebody with Quadriplegia though, I was born with my autism, and it will never go away. So the only real solution that can help me deal with what holds me back from doing everyday things is the support from others.
Six-Word Lessons on Growing Up Autistic, Lesson #97: Phone a Therapist- They Can Help!
That’s what I did: I went to therapy sessions in high school and college to help me with my negative thinking and relative loneliness. The result is that I received some coping strategies, along with a tool that helped me to better understand my personality type. Emotional support by a professional is absolutely vital for anyone, disabled or not, to overcome any form of depression.
Another thing that has helped me enormously has been medications. It may make you feel sick from the first few weeks of taking it, but as you get used to the new routine, you’ll find that your thinking patterns will change, and you’ll feel overall more satisfied with your situations.
But really, the best thing that can help anyone is the immediate support of family.
Six-Word Lessons for Dads with Autistic Kids, Lesson #100: Never Stop Saying I Love You.
They are the ones who are always going to be a safety net for you no matter how old you get, and they know you right from birth how you will react to things. Do not ever think less of your family no matter what types of problems may come up. They are there in your life for that very reason.
But of course, like in Me Before You, at the very end of the day, the decision on what to do with the emotional support is dependent on you. Any psychiatrist can tell you to take a certain set of daily prescriptions, but you always could simply choose not to take them. Your parents could each say how they are always there to listen when you need it, but you could still decide not to tell them anything that happens to you. All the help in the world could come your way, but no change is going to take place unless you make the decision to let the change take place.
With that said, here are some easy ways that can help you with feelings of depression, anxiety, or hopelessness:
- Get help if you are feeling depressed, especially to the brink of suicide. There are always psychiatrists who are especially trained to help people in your condition, do don’t ever feel like you’re weak for going to them for help.
- If you are the parent of somebody with autism who feels down on his luck because of his disorder, don’t ever stop telling him that you love him. The more he hears this, the higher is confidence and self-esteem will rise.
- Follow through with the help that you are receiving from others. You do have that free will to do what you want, but the change you foresee yourself living will only happen if you let it happen. It may be difficult to go through a new change at first, but as time passes, its award will benefit your mental health.
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