There are two different messages communicated in The Incredibles: remain in what’s happening now, and everyone should use their unique abilities. Together, they generate the essence of what makes a family great. One thing that I love about this movie is how the two leads, Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl, each value one of the two things while giving no care to the other. In the end, they each get what they want, but not without learning from the other, just as a marriage in real life works.
Mr. Incredible, or Bob Parr, is like any other man facing a mid-life crisis; he wishes to go back to the old days, and eventually finds a way to escape and live like the old days. It may be paradise to him, but it costs him a tremendous deal: his high-paying job, the trust of his wife, and the safety of everybody he loves. Elastigirl, or Helen Parr, likewise resembles any woman in that same stage of life; she is so worked up by the rules that she won’t even let her kids feel special in their abilities.
Many people can relate to Mr. Incredible in the struggle to remain in the present moment, or Elastigirl in the struggle to encourage kids to be special. It truly requires a mastery of knowing how to relate to the other family members by meeting their needs. If somebody has autism, even finding the desire to meet the needs of the family can almost feel impossible.